Parties are meant to be fun. But balloons popping, loud music, crowds and a surprise game of pass the parcel can be a lot, for autistic children and plenty of others too.
The good news is that the things that help one child usually make the party nicer for everyone, grown-ups included.
Before the party
- Say what's going to happen. A simple plan on the invite (arrive, play, food, cake, home) helps children who like to know what's next.
- Ask parents one easy question: "Is there anything that would help your little one enjoy it?" Then listen to the answer.
- Share a photo of the venue so it isn't a surprise on the day.
On the day
- Make a quiet corner. A few cushions, some colouring and a sign that says anyone can take a break here.
- Go easy on the loudest bits. Turn the music down a notch and give a heads-up before balloons pop or everyone sings.
- Make joining in optional. Watching the games, helping hand out prizes or playing alongside all count as joining in.
- Keep food simple. Lots of children feel safer with plain, familiar food, so a bowl of the basics goes a long way.
After
A short, warm message to the family ("We loved having them") means more than you'd think.
Inclusion doesn't need to be perfect. It just needs a little thought and a lot of kindness.